A Guest Blog From The Road…..

This week finds us on our annual April West Coast run.  It’s always wonderful making this trip and getting to see all of our friends along the way.  We also have a special treat this week as our beloved leader Scott is providing us with a guest blog!  So read on and enjoy!


Recently, our nation was reminded once again just how tragic the end result is when troubled and misguided young men adopt an irrational, violent, misguided radical ideology.

Not long before the Boston bombing, I was shocked to hear these words: “We have never invested as much in public education as we should have because we’ve always had kind of a private notion of children: Your kid is yours and totally your responsibility. We haven’t had a very collective notion of these are our children. So part of it is we have to break through our kind of private idea that kids belong to their parents, or kids belong to their families, and recognize that kids belong to whole communities. Once it’s everybody’s responsibility, and not just the household’s, then we start making better investments.”

These are the words of Melissa Harris-Perry.  Melissa is an American author, television host and liberal political commentator.  According to Wikipedia, Harris-Perry’s is of the Unitarian Universalist faith.

Contemporary Unitarian Universalism espouses a pluralist approach to religious belief, whereby members may describe themselves as humanist, agnostic, deist, atheist, pagan, Christian, monotheistic, pantheist, polytheistic or assume no label at all. (You need to do a little research and see what all these “beliefs” believe).   As of 2006, fewer than about 20% of Unitarian Universalists identified themselves as Christian.

Can I “vent?”  When I was a kid, my dad told my friends parents as well as my teachers at school that they had his permission to discipline me to “make me behave.”  If Tommy’s mom had to discipline me for something, I got it again when I got home.  I couldn’t use the “collective” argument that Mr. Smith has already spanked me for that. I guess my dad thought I belonged to him. … the nerve!

Now that I’m a dad, I too tell my kids bus driver, teachers and neighbors that if my kid is with them, I expect them to make them behave and require the same manners and code of conduct they expect from their own children. I realize that churches, boy scouts, youth groups, Sunday school classes, schoolroom classes and such are all “collective bodies” and as such influence and are responsible to our kids safe keeping while they are in their charge. I get it that our kids are influenced by lots more people than just their parents.  But I don’t think Harris is referring to that obvious reality.  I believe that “collective” and “community” is euphemism for Government.  Do we really want to trust our government to raise our kids for us? The same folks that are ok aborting children by the thousands every year?

Again, don’t misunderstand me. I do not have an issue with having an involved Community. I advocate it. If I find someone breaking into my neighbor’s house, I’ll call the police.  When my neighbor is on vacation, I’ll clean the newspapers off his driveway and cut his grass. When Preston and Bailey have a friend over to our house, I make that child obey the rules of our home.  He can’t be mean.  He can’t be disrespectful.  He must share. He must use his manners.  If he misbehaves, I let his parents know and I expect the same when my kids are at their friend’s homes.  But ultimately, my kid’s friends are not my responsibility.

But Harris is not talking about just this type of community. She is talking about a public school system that takes a more active role in raising your kids and my kids and imparting their values on them because they are after all, “the community’s children.”  I want my kids schools to educate them….not indoctrinate them. I DO NOT want the government’s help in raising my children.  It’s not their responsibility. Raising Preston and Bailey is the sole responsibility of Taryn and me.  I can’t help but wonder if Harris would want me raising HER kids?  I doubt it. Assuming she has kids, I wonder how she would react to me correcting or advocating my value set to them?  She and other folks like her think their way is superior to our way.  They think they are enlightened and we are ignorant hayseeds.  Don’t get me started!!!

So…what’s a parent to do?  What’s a grandparent to do?  Take responsibility for teaching and modeling Godly virtue to your kids and grandkids. Do not abdicate that to ANYONE ELSE. ”

I will choose the “communities” and the “villages” that I want to influence my kids.  I will choose where to worship and with whom my kids associate.   Allow me to quote Adam Mitchell’s stirring speech from the movie, “Courageous:”

As a law-enforcement officer, I’ve seen firsthand the deep hurt and devastation that fatherlessness brings in a child’s life. Our prisons are full of men and women who lived recklessly after being abandoned by their fathers, wounded by the men who should have loved them the most. Many now follow the same pattern of irresponsibility that their fathers did.

While so many mothers have sacrificed to help their children survive, they were never intended to carry the weight alone. We thank God for them.

But research is proving that a child also desperately needs a daddy. There’s no way around this fact. As you know, earlier this year, my family endured the tragic loss of our four-year-old daughter, Emily. Her death forced me to realize that not only had I not taken advantage of the priceless time I had with her, but that I did not truly understand how crucial my role was as a father to her and our son, Dylan. Since her passing, I’ve asked God to show me, through his word how to be the father that I need to be.

I now believe that God desires for every father to courageously step up and do whatever it takes to be involved in the lives of his children. But more than just being there or providing for them, he’s to walk with them through their lives and be a visual representation of the character of God, their father in heaven.

A father should love his children and seek to win their hearts. He should protect them, discipline them and teach them about God. He should model how to walk with integrity and treat others with respect and should call out his children to become responsible men and women who live their lives for what matters in eternity.

Some men will hear this and mock it or ignore it. But I tell you that as a father, you are accountable to God for the position of influence he has given you. You can’t fall asleep at the wheel only to wake up one day and realize that your job or your hobbies have no eternal value but the souls of your children do.

Some men will hear this and agree with it but have no resolve to live it out. Instead, they will live for themselves and waste the opportunity to leave a godly legacy for the next generation.

But there are some men who, regardless of the mistakes we’ve made in the past, regardless of what our fathers did not do for us, will give the strength of our arms and the rest of our days to loving God with all that we are and to teach our children to do the same, and, whenever possible, to love and mentor others who have no father in their lives but who desperately need help and direction.

In my home, the decision has already been made. You don’t have to ask who will guide my family, because by God’s grace, I will. You don’t have to ask who will teach my sons to follow Christ, because l will. Who will accept the responsibility of providing and protecting my family? I will. Who will ask God to break the chain of destructive patterns in my family’s history? I will. Who will pray for and bless my children to boldly pursue whatever God calls them to do? I am their father. I will.

I accept this responsibility, and it is my privilege to embrace it. I want the favor of God and his blessing on my home. Any good man does. So where are you, men of courage? Where are you, fathers who fear the Lord? It’s time to rise up and answer the call that God has given to you and to say, “I will. I will. I will.”

I’m really not concerned about being politically correct.  I’m concerned about being Biblically correct.  Now….let’s go radicalize our kids for the cause of Christ!





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32 responses to “A Guest Blog From The Road…..

  1. Rebecca Gardiner

    It is so funny that you wrote this blog, because I’ve had similar thoughts about this recently. I myself do not have any children, but I work with children all the time (babysitting, children’s choir, bus ministry) and I have seen first hand the effects of parents not being the number one influence in their lives. It is heart breaking and unfortunately leaves those like myself to have to be the ones to “be the parent” and love them like they’re my own. It is a good experience for me, but it still almost angers me that the real parents or guardian will not love them the same. But then I am constantly reminded that those people cannot love the same way I can because they do not have the love of Christ, and I may be the only one left to be the Godly influence in their lives. May God give us parents who will love their children like Christ loved us. Thank you for this thought, Scott! 🙂

  2. Words that come from the heart and hit the heart as well. I am school bus driver and I can tell you after a very short time which children have parents who take the time to discipline in love and which children are programmed to respond only when a voice is raised. It is sad to see the way our children our lacking in discipline and love and we will all bear the results of that. Because I see children every day,the least,or perhaps the most I can do is pray for these souls who enter my bus on a regular basis.

  3. Mary Lynn Carlson

    I totally agree, wholeheartedly, and take that responsibility seriously, even as a grandparent!

  4. Fantastic! This attitude is one of the reason’s I pulled my son from his public Kindergarten a few weeks ago. My children are mine- My blessings, My responsibilities, My joy and sorrow… My everything! My husband and I have been trying so far unsuccessfully to have another baby. The first thing I did when I started asking God to grant this request is vow to raise any blessing for Him alone. Turning them over to a socialist government is not how that works! Thank you for loving God, for your ministry and for being a good dad!!!

  5. Joyce Feddersen

    Amen, Scott. Well written, and contains a great deal of truth! Your sons are very fortunate, indeed.

  6. Carolyn

    Very well stated. Amen!

  7. Larry D

    Brilliant, Scott, and scintillating. You should get riled up and write more often. But you absolutely get right to the point and to the issue. This is the position that we took with our son and despite his learning disabilities and other mental health issues, we told him that he alone was responsible for his behavior and that he could not use his medical problems as a reason for doing wrong things. He has turned out just fine and is a productive member of society today. But we took the responsibility for him and didn’t expect others to do it because it was time consuming and hard.

  8. Sue Matta

    I am a school bus driver also,the kids that get on you can tell if they have any respect or discipline at home. They don’t listen to anything,until you raise your voice.More parents need to Love their kids alot more then they do,and cherish them. Thank you Scott.

  9. I totally agree with you scott , after reading your blog it made me think of the short story I wrote after the horrible bombings in boston last week so here it is , I hope you like it WHAT IS THIS WORLD COMING TO

    When I think of the events that have been happening in the last few weeks such as the bombings that have injured several people and killed 3 innocent people , the courts taking time listen to and even considering allowing same sex marriage, the politicians making gun control a priority instead considering and following the constitution that the founder fathers wrote and all signed over a century ago, to give us all the freedom of speech , the freedom of religion, the freedom to bare arms, With all of these supposed called freedoms we should be able to have, but have eventually seem to be having them taking away by the politicians and the evil people of the world, I ask myself this question What is this world coming to .

    Let me explain why I asked the question I did in the last sentence of the previous paragraph, Just think of all the rights that we are supposed to have but the politicians and the rest of the world seem to turn their backs on us because they are afraid of offending the minority of people, Why can’t they think of the majority of people that are Believers of Christ and don’t believe in a lot of the stuff that the government is trying to pass, such as same sex marriage, abortions, trying to take away national day of prayer, not allowing people to say Merry Christmas, If it wasn’t for God none of us or the other countries would be here It started in Gods creation in genesis 1 , Now a days a lot of people can only think of how to get revenge of on someone else or another country , a lot of it has to do with the way society has become and also the stuff the media puts on the air , the video games companies sell, the stuff junk they air on TV shows now a days and the movies they show now, if it doesn’t have sex, violence, foul language it doesn’t get made,

    Just think of back 40 some years ago when the shows they had on TV were family made shows , so were the movies , families actually spent time with families and the children enjoyed spending time with there folks , Christ played a major roll in peoples daily life back then and Christians didn’t have to be afraid to mention their faith , didn’t have to be afraid to walk down the streets, didn’t hear about how people from other countries were thinking or master minding how they could bomb and destroy and kill innocent people in other countries simply because they don’t believe or go along on how they practice religion ,

    What this World needs is for all us Christians to start and speak up and let our voices be heard loud and clear that our faith will and cannot be destroyed . Because of our Lord and savior is our life line , our strength and our redeemer . We also need to all remember what Jesus did for all of us by dying at the cross for our sins . Why not start thanking him by living a life like he would approve of and become united and love everyone one like he loves all of us .

  10. I still say that I’d vote for you if you ran for office, Scott! We need someone with common sense, or I should say, godly sense. How about Gerald Wolfe & you for pres. & vice-pres.? You guys figure out who is what!

  11. Tom Lamborn

    Well said!!

  12. *stands*
    and begins
    *slooooooow clap*

  13. Only change I would make… just replace the word “misguided” with “evil,” “vicious,” or something else that puts a finer point on personal responsibility. For anyone who would say, “Oh, these men were poor lonely unloved outcasts,” evidence shows that they were not! They were popular, successful, and well-liked. Just reveals the dark depths of the human heart.

  14. mj

    Amen, preach on Bro. Scott. My daughter is a teacher and she tries so hard to be a good example and teach these children to be good citizens. And, yes she does teach Christian values.

  15. Amy

    Wow! That was amazing!! Great stuff there Scott!! Its amazing what so many different people can think and believe. Always stand for truth! Don’t ever let the world get in the way of what you believe!!

  16. Coleen Jo Caldwell

    Do you care if I share your thoughts with other people – I know there are those out there that want and need to hear what you have said because they feel like they’re all alone in their beliefs about child-rearing and who’s responsible and such. I pray for my grandchildren that when they go “out in the world” to public schools that the Lord will protect them from all harm and keep them grounded in His word as they’ve been taught to do. Hopefully they can “minister” to those who don’t know the Lord through their actions and reactions with others.

    God bless you for taking your precious time to share your thoughts – Preston and Bailey are indeed blessed to have you and Taryn as their parents.

  17. Turnbull's/Lenexa KS

    Amen! Amen! And AMEN! Thank you so much

  18. Marlene Doerksen

    Well said, Scott–amen!!! That quotation from Courageous should be read in Congress & in our Canadian Parliament!!

  19. janice berry ditterline

    Amen! Well said and well lived… Thank you.

  20. Joan Rainbolt

    Thank you for your faithfulness Scott.

  21. AMEN Scott! I already had a great deal of respect for you! Your speech at NQC about ministering for God and refusing to do so in a church with unbiblical rules really inspired me. This blog is wonderful. God bless you as you raise your children to love and walk with Jesus Christ!

  22. Wow, Scott – your passion is palpable! Thanks for sharing and not holding back the truth.

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